I know I’m blessed but if I can’t see that blessing, then I know there’s a bigger problem at stake. I needed a shift.
Breathe mama! Every single mom out there is or has been a hot mess at some point just like you. No matter how put together a mom looks. She’s been through it. The big it’s. The poops and screams. All of it! Also for all you mompreneurs I have yet to really even talk about business on my playdates or moms groups and it has been REFRESHING!! ***insert gasp*** Picture that…you can actually talk about something other than business or babies.
As I was googling around I found MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers). To say this changed my life seems so dramatic but it really did. If you are looking for a non-denominational faith based group of non-judgmental mamas this it it. It truly has been so amazing. I live in the Southeast part of San Diego and was so happy to find our chapter. Oh and thank God for childcare while we meet. So helpful to get this time with fellow mamas without the kiddos.
For more mama groups: Check out meetup.com or Facebook for local moms groups in your areas. There are so many mamas just like you looking for an escape and an adult convo. I also joined the San Diego Mompreneurs Community and have really enjoyed meeting business savvy mamas in the same season of life as me.
Having a tribe has been a blessing. One of my favorite Facebook hangouts is the M.O.M. Squad: Mom on a Mission run by Luciana Naldi. She probably has no idea how encouraging she has been and we only know each other virtually. Luciana is a mama of two sets of twins. Yes TWO. She might be part unicorn or crazy either way, I just love her. Somehow she just keeps it real and always has some amazing self care wisdom to impart on us frazzled mamas. Go check her group out. You won’t be disappointed.
One of my favorite Facebook hangouts is the M.O.M. Squad: Mom on a Mission run by Luciana Naldi.
Step one get rid of excuses. Step two wake up before the kids.
Adult learning programs in your area may offer some mommy and me classes that are free. But worse case scenario go old school and just take a walk or if they are mobile get a ball, find a patch of grass and let them run.
I now belong to a few groups from walking moms groups to local mompreneurs. Every group has it’s place and purpose. Seeking out a tribe has helped me feel less alone and more normal. I don’t feel like I have to go to these group outings and find my new BFF. I have one sole goal…get out, meet one new person and feel like a human again.
You can join my online Mompreneurs group here. We have a great self-care call every 2 weeks that is absolutely encouraging and all about giving back to ourselves.
5) Set a realistic schedule
Now that I get up earlier I do get a few minutes to get some tasks done. But I won’t do any work until I’ve had my morning quiet time. This was the hardest habit to create because I wanted to use this time to be “productive.” But I had to remind myself that my body needs refueling and love too. I also carve out 2 hours of work or calls while Lala naps at noon. Then in the evening after she’s in bed I really just try to get one thing done and I only give myself an hour of time to do any business activities. My total time available to work on my business is 3 hours a day. That’s it and I don’t work on Fridays because I love having that one day flexible where I can do whatever I want.
Depression is a real thing if you feel like hurting yourself or others you need more support and that’s not necessarily a mom group or getting out of the house issue.
For my other mamas who just need a boost, a change in scenary or just a refresh from the hamster wheel of being a stay at home or work from home mom you can do this. I know how incredibly hard it is to get up and get stuff done when you are depleted. But I promise that it gets better if your mindset has an opportunity to shift and you get to fill yourself up first. I can’t talk enough about this. I am more productive and focused now because when I sit down to work it is one consistent stream of time and I work from a list. I am a better wife because I have an outlet and friends to connect with. My daughter is more even keel because she gets plenty of play time, sunshine and kiddie interactions. Overall it’s been such a powerful shift for me and my family. Not every day is easy but 80% of the days are better than they were. What have you got to lose?
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